I AM embarking on a psychology course at the moment, so I can engage more with the mental elements to health and just generally understand people better.
It’s a subject, alongside nutrition, that I am fascinated with and always have been. This opportunity arose for me through a company that I have worked with for many years, so how could I refuse? However, the amount of study hours I am having to put in before joining the course is proving challenging to say the least. Hopefully, it will be worth the late nights and early mornings.
One of the modules is about thoughts and feelings that people may experience when faced with death. There are two guarantees in life, one is being born and the other is dying. As much as most of us avoid the subject, it’s an inevitable part of life.
I think it goes without saying that apparently it’s the most poignant time for reflection of your life, and the time where people have the most regrets. From all the things you may achieve in life, the thing that affects people more when faced with their own demise is not what they have done, but what they haven’t.
I thought it was really interesting, and if we all stop to think about it would we change the way we are living right now? After all, every day is full of choices and we have the power to change anything at any time, any day.
Here is the top 10 list of regrets people had when reflecting back on their lives:
1. I wish I had lived my own life.
If this is the case do something about it now! Spend time now working on the things you want to accomplish, or even try. Build a business, cultivate a great career, build a family, run a marathon, buy a house in Italy, swim the Channel, start painting. The greatest success lies in living your life in your own way.
2. I wish I had worked less.
Working constantly for something you don’t passionately care about adds nothing but stress to your life. And even if the passion is there, keep your workload in balance with the rest of your life, otherwise you may feel you have missed out in other areas.
3. I wish I had lived up to my full potential.
Live up to your own aspirations, not down to others’ expectations. There is no passion to be found in settling for a life that is less than the one you are capable of living, or one that makes YOU happy.
4. I wish I had spent more time with the people I love.
It’s easy to let that time slip away, but once it’s gone you can never get it back. This is something you can change right now if you have the chance.
5. I wish I had forgiven more.
It takes a strong person to say “I’m sorry,” and an even stronger person to forgive. Forgive and let go, free yourself from grudges and enjoy happiness instead of wasting it.
6. I wish I had worried less.
Worry is just using your imagination to create the things you don’t want. If you can’t do anything about it what’s the use in worrying!
7. I wish I had stood up for myself.
Never allow yourself to be bullied or silenced. No one is more important in this world than you are.
8. I wish I had cared less about what other people think.
Stop wasting your moments on other people’s opinions. Ultimately, they are just opinions from those who don’t fully share your reality.
9. I wish I had faced my fears.
Life is found in the distance between your deepest desire and your greatest fear. Remember, fear is only temporary, but regret lasts forever.
10. I wish I’d stopped chasing the wrong things.
When you let the wrong things go, you can give the right things a chance to catch you.
Later will be now before you know it. Don’t waste time on things that are not important to you. Life is for living!